What is Neurodiverse Counseling?

 

Individual brains are wired differently. You might have felt that you and your partner are on different channels in the way you experience the world or communicate with one another. This might be a neurodiverse relationship; when one or both partners being on autism spectrum. Neurological differences in the way your brains work may make it hard to see eye-to-eye, live together, co-parent, be in social settings together or communicate about certain topics. While all couples experience challenges within their relationship, neurodiverse couples may face unique challenges based on these neurological differences. Neurodiversity can lead to rich, fulfilling relationships but it can also cause frustration, stress and heartache.

 

There are several challenges in neurodiverse relationships such as:

• Lack reciprocity and emotional nurturing

• Communication

• Interests

• Sensory sensitivity

• Socialization

• Trauma

• Conflict avoidance

• Boundaries

But there are some solutions for it as follows:

• Revisit your initial attraction and intimacy

• Understand brain differences

• Get help from a therapist or coach who also understands neurodiversity

• Treat trauma (developmental, OTRS/CP, PTSD)

• Educate (intimacy and neurodiversity) and connect (structure, consistency, love)

• Commit to relationship with new knowledge and a plan for implementation and tracking

• Shift from a problem-centered to appreciation-centered view of your relationship

 

I am part of the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center, which you can head to for more resources.